Those among us who have experienced dating before the age of the internet and smartphones remember a different, simpler way of getting to know other people and sailing into a relationship. Every aspect of that courtship, including romantic and platonic relationships, was conducted on a personal level. Everything you came to find about the other person came directly from them. Peripheral information came from rumors, and if you needed to confirm anything, it was best done directly.
Technological advancements in the past couple of decades changed the entire universe of personal and professional relationships. New realms for social interaction became popular, giving rise to new social behaviors and norms. These rapidly changing environments challenge the social skills of young people who grow up with them and force older folks to adjust to this new reality to remain in the circle.
As challenging as this reality may seem, it is important to remember that you should not be intimidated by it. We can play by the rules of the game, even if we don’t entirely like them. There is no need to rush in. Much like other periods in your life when you embarked on new realities while short on knowledge or experience, this digital sphere is much the same. Tread lightly and proceed in measured steps. Be honest and careful. Ask questions and proceed only when you feel comfortable doing so. Many of these technologies support activities you are well familiar with, but they use a new method of execution. As you stay true to your principles and your comfort zone you will become accustomed to this new environment. Conversations will stream in new styles. Intimacy will find new ways of being expressed and shared. Meeting new people and developing relationships with them will change forms. In the end, we will continue to be the social creatures we are and grow our circles. The customs by which we interact may change with new technologies, but it will not diminish our need for a human connection. That is a primary function of our humanity.